TIME = Things I must Earn. People suffering from addiction and mental health issues are really like people that have a really, really bad flu. It affects their mood, their perception of reality, and their sense of what is important. Because they are sick, they are preoccupied with themselves and obvious to others. This is the nature of addiction - the perfect predator.
Recovery takes time. TIME is an acronym for "things I must earn." When I got sober, I so much yearned for my life back, my spouse, my career, my home, my things...It has taken a long time. I had to earn this life that I have today - your loved one will too. Encourage, but for God's sake, let them do it. It is a journey that should not be robbed from them. What you can do is encourage, love, and pray for them. But their time, like my time, I must earn myself.